noun. A poser with feminine wiles, not yet capable of making a grown man pee his panties, romantically or otherwise.
Related term: despotette-in-training.
Real citation: “As the local creative genius extraordinaire and Despotette-Wannabe, being a bit flaky just comes with the territory. In her free time, Laura lives amongst the Dutch, plays in mud puddles, pines for the Stateside love-of-her-life, eats a lot of waffles, and plot-plots evil things for the club.”
(2004, Dawnsisters Weyr, http://www.dawnsistersweyr.net/club/meet_bod.html)
Made-up citation: "A despotette-wannabe in the dungeon is worth three proctologistettes in the parlor."